Follow up to yesterday.

[jackandahat]

Went back in to Remploy, turned out my adviser had had a word with the guy about the cane-snatching after I left. I told him if it happens again, I'm walking and there will be a serious complaint put in. Cane-snatcher apologised then spent the rest of the afternoon ignoring me and refusing to look at me while in the same room. (Yes, he is in fact a grown man and not a six year old. Allegedly.)

So that was sorted... and then my adviser promptly started lecturing me again on how he was sure I could use a phone if it was "Just a bit". Thing is, I know how "Just a bit" works - you start off with a little, then they go "he's coping fine, see?" and give you more, then they ask how why you're not doing your job. He also doesn't seem to understand that I'm not used to phones and I actually don't respond to them. You know how if someone calls someone else's name, you don't look up or respond because it doesn't apply to you? That's me - I'm just not used to phones, so I tend not to register they're ringing. It's a habit rather than a disability but it's due to my disability. It's not me "being awkward"

I don't get it. I'm hard of hearing, why are they the ones not hearing what I say? Why is it so hard to understand that no, I can't hear/understand you if I'm not looking at you? I've told the adviser a few times - get my attention, then when I'm looking at you, talk. Saying "But I called your name" when I had my back to you working on a computer isn't helpful.

And yes. These are the people whose entire job is to help with disability issues.

Comments

[codeman38]

Gahhh, the phone thing...

I've had my own annoyances in that regard. Quite often, people refuse to believe I have difficulty hearing on the phone because I can fairly decently make out what people whose speech patterns I know well are saying. (But of course-- I'm used to their speech patterns, so I can fill in the missing bits!) And so they don't seem to understand why I can't deal with calls to random strangers, receptionists, etc.

Grr.

[jackandahat]

*nods* For me, a big bit is lipreading, though of course it helps if I'm familiar with them. But it's amazing how people can just Not Understand that just because you have coping mechanisms that let you do X, doesn't mean you can do Y.

[codeman38]

Yeah, lipreading helps me immensely in person as well. So I also have the issue of people wondering why I can't deal with phone calls when I can carry on a face-to-face conversation perfectly fine. ::grumble::